I need to warn young guys that dating standards apparently have gone up. According to an e-mail I just got the other day, young women are not going to stand for bad dates anymore.
There is a scene in one of the Indiana Jones movies, “Raiders of the Lost Ark,” where a character grabs in midair a date that Indiana Jones was tossing up and into his mouth.
“Bad dates,” the character simply explained, as they both looked at a dead monkey by a dish. The animal had been poisoned by the bad guys, and so too, almost, had been Indiana.
That has nothing to do with what I want to talk to you about, but I really like the scene, and there are incredibly few moments in life when I get to bring it up. My friends all are tired of hearing it.
Thanks for listening.
Other bad dates
What I really wanted to talk to you about is this whole other kind of bad dates, bad social dates. I need to warn young guys that dating standards apparently have gone up. According to an e-mail I just got the other day, young women are not going to stand for bad dates anymore.
“I wanted to make sure you were familiar with the trend CanDoBetter.com has seen over the past six months,” said the e-mail. “Why are more women under 30 using CanDoBetter.com to be extra picky when deciding to go out on a first date?”
Maybe it’s because women know they really can do better? It’s a fact that men have been trying to keep a little quiet for many generations.
Some guy named Gavin at CanDoBetter.com claims that the current dating situation has a lot to do with the economy. Women are choosing to assess the value of a bad date, when compared to no date at all, for surprising monetary reasons.
“It makes sense to think that women have the inexpensive role in the dating game; after all, women generally don’t pay for first dates,” Gavin said. “But what’s making single women extra fussy?”
According to the e-mail, there are five economic reasons women are avoiding a potentially bad date:
1. Buying a new outfit.
2. Paying for a cab to leave early if it’s a bad date.
3. Taking public transportation to meet your date.
4. Having to avoid paying for dinner.
5. Gas cost to meet your date.
So my advice to young men wanting to get their foot in the door on a first date: Offer a guarantee of cab or bus fare. It may not sound romantic, and certainly not particularly confident, but it appears that this is what it takes these days.
Well, it seems dating also takes a computer.
CanDoBetter.com, as it turns out, is “a social networking and dating website that lets the world decide if your potential partner is a perfect match.” The website reports a substantial rise in women under 30 choosing to avoid a potentially bad date.
“With so many singles using the Internet to find a date, we know the problem is not meeting someone, it’s meeting that right someone,” said Dr. J.D. Block, couples therapist for CanDoBetter.com. “People on first dates are not looking for meaningful conversations, but are evaluating their date as a potential romantic partner.”
Guys, it’s not just a movie and a late-night burger anymore. The pressure is on. And CanDoBetter.com “fuses together traditional dating and a New Age experience.”
“Savvy singles who can’t decide on which person to date can now log on to CanDoBetter.com and post pictures of their possible dating partners,” said the e-mail. “Once the photos are uploaded, the site gives users three choices to vote — he can do better, she can do better, or a perfect match. The Web site immediately shows the percentage of other users who agree or disagree and members can take the perspective of what others think.”
The potential for embarrassment is high. Dating these days is not for the sensitive.
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