It Takes One To Know One

Only a person with identical character traits would be able to recognize those traits in someone else. Perhaps it can be better said, “It Takes One To Know One.”
However, this holds true for empathy in suffering as well. You can’t understand the grief of a widow or widower until you’ve suffered the loss of a spouse. You can’t grasp the pain of a divorcee if you have not experienced the heartache of a divorce. It would be hard for you to identify with a barren woman if you have had the pleasure of bearing children. And you certainly wouldn’t be able to empathize with the fear and dread of a terminal illness unless you are diagnosed with it.
But when you have suffered, I mean really suffered -----you certainly have the credentials of being the one who can truly understand those who are experiencing certain trials.
Moreover, your trials equips you to become one of God’s greatest conduits for those who are in distress, while sharing the comfort and consolation you received from being in His presence.
In 2 Corinthians 1:4 we are told that, “He comes alongside us when we go through hard times, and before you know it, He brings us alongside someone else who is going through hard times so that we can be there for that person just as God was there for us.”
Do you need encouraging today?
Do you need someone to embrace you and compassionately say, “I understand, I’ve been there.” Jesus certainly understands the full scope what you are going through and He can get you through it – trust in Him because He has truly been there and done that!
My friend, encouragement is priceless to the one who is hurting. Therefore, we must seize every opportunity to help lift another soul out of despair, however, helping them regain their footing in order for them to move a step further.
Carolyn Crow is a contributing writer and can be reached at